Feelings Are Not Facts.
You may feel useless, guilty, fearful, anxious, worthless, unlovable. Just remember these are feelings and not facts - don't believe that just because you feel like crap, you are!
As a new Mum, your feelings and emotions can be overwhelming (even the good ones). You may be wondering what the hell has happened to the once strong-willed, in control woman you used to be, and who the hell is this emotional wreck that has taken her place? Please take my advice, you are not the first, you won't be the last and it won't last forever.
Understanding and accepting our feelings as just that is an important adjustment to being a Mum. Be kind to yourself, don't compare yourself to other people and seek help when you need it.
I myself suffered from post-natal depression after the birth of my baby and it is a scary and lonely place to be. I thought this would never happen to me, I was a strong, healthy and mentally balanced woman, fully prepared for my new life as a Mum. In fact PND can affect absolutely anyone and a staggering 1 in 10 women in the UK suffer from post-natal depression after having their baby.
It can affect Mums differently at different times, can come on suddenly or gradually. There is no checklist or test that can confirm whether or not you are suffering from post-natal depression.
Admitting to yourself that you may be suffering with PND is hard, let alone then confiding in anyone else but as soon as you can acknowledge it, you can start on the journey to changing it.
I am so passionate about helping women with post-natal depression but I am not a GP, a therapist or counsellor. What I can do is empower you with the strategies to tackle this head on alongside my support and guidance but if you feel like you need much more than this to help you I urge you to go and chat with your GP.
All of a sudden we are a 'Mum' as well as an individual and the things that once made up our identity have fallen by the wayside which can lead us to feel that somewhere down the line we've completely lost sight of the person that was 'Me' before we became 'Mum'. The good news is, the two can and should co-exist. It's so important that we have a strong sense of self or we may begin to feel resentful, lacking in confidence un-happy.
Are you wondering why all of a sudden you constantly want to punch his lights out?
Maintaining your relationship after having a baby takes time and energy (yes, in short supply right now) but working on your relationship pays off! Less energy arguing and feeling resentful and more time to enjoy each other and your family.